NEERJA SINGH PTW PROGRAMS

Neerja Singh

Your Life Design Mentor

She is the Seenager, senior teenager. A professional speaker on Generational Issues with 37 years of work and life experience as an advertising executive, prize winning fiction writer, feature journalist, teacher, documentary script-writer, TV anchor and professional columnist, she addresses India’s never-before-generation-gap.

PTW LDP PARENT TEEN CONNECTION Neerja Singh

Program Name:

Parent Teens Connection

For Who: 

Parents & Teens

Mode of Delivery: Online

Where: Zoom Meeting App

Program Length: 3 Weeks

Duration/Session: 1 Hour

Frequency of sessions: 1/Week

A teenager today has to prepare for a future that will be radically different from what their parents envisioned when they were born. An appreciation of the challenges, demands and skill requirements the young will face will help parents to keep their connection with their child realistic and functional. On the other hand, the teen will need an understanding that every human around her is struggling with the changes and the one constant in her life will be her primary support system, her parents.

There is so much noise in the environment today that families find themselves on emotional roller coasters, powerless to help themselves. Who does one talk to? Where does one go? A parent-teen relationship is sensitive, charged and crucial on life’s timeline. What is needed at times is an outside, aware and compassionate agency that can mirror the family dynamics and help the unit choose a smarter direction for themselves.

Three sessions of an hour each, over a period of 3 weeks
1. Parents to Mentor
2. Teen to Mentor
3. Parents-Teen-Mentor

  • Gauge The Degree Of The Parents’ Ambient Awareness
  • Understanding The Fundamental Conflict Zones
  • Appreciate The Fundamentals Of Non-Violent Communication
  • Ascertaining The Teen’s Life-View
  • Identifying The Age-appropriate Orientation
  • Anticipating Future Work/Life Scenarios
  • Redefining The Mutual Expectations/ Compulsions/ Concerns
  • Presenting The New Roles Both Parents And The Teen Will Need To Play
  • Emphasizing The Life-Saving Importance Of Retaining A Connection

At the end of the program you will be able to:

  • Gain new insights into each other’s compulsions and motivations
  • Learn to communicate in non-violent ways that are good for everybody's overall emotional health
  • Recognize and imbibe the tools and techniques to be psychologically safe for each other
  • Learn the importance of staying relevant to the changing environment
  • Come to believe that you have agency in this difficult relationship and stop feeling like victims

Ultimately, parents and teens can become a trusting, respectful and compassionate team that remains high-functioning, irrespective of the challenges modern life throws at them.

NURTURING TEEN BY NEERJA JPG

Program Name:

Nurturing Teen Introverts

For Who: 

Parents of Teenagers

Mode of Delivery: Online

Where: Zoom Meeting App

Program Length: 6 Weeks

Duration/Session: 1 Hour

Frequency of sessions: 3/Month

Think about it. There is an entire vocabulary around being outgoing, gregarious and popular. It is considered the ideal personality to be. But what are the words used to describe a teen who is the opposite of all this? Boring, unhealthily solitary and a bit odd. Introverts are viewed as disappointing, almost pathological creatures. They are approached as people to be fixed. Their loved ones worry about them, urging them to acquire more friends all the time, to join up communities, to attend social gatherings.

Society dictates that teens must learn to speak up, to shout down each other in group discussions, to participate in brainstorming where the quality of ideas is based upon the desire to keep peace. Group wisdom has come to be held up as paramount but the truth is that Harry Potter, Google and the theory of Relativity were all born from the solitude of introverts.

For far too long, teenagers have suffered shame and judgement for being “too quiet” or “too shy” or “too under-confident” but what if they are just a different personality type with tremendous talents that society is wasting. It is time to acknowledge their quiet brilliance.

Six sessions of an hour each, over a period of 3 months

  1. Awareness of the nature and power of introverts
  2.  Shyness vs introversion and the need for balance
  3. The introvert-extrovert spectrum
  4. Myths about introverts and need for their inclusion
  5. Crucial skills for finding real connection
  6. Celebrating the child’s temperament
  • Understanding the characteristics of introverts

  • The second-class citizens with gigantic amounts of untapped talent

  • Appreciating the Difference and the degree to which the two traits of shyness and introversion overlap
  • The cultural extroversion bias and the pretend extroverts
  • Alternate ways for self-expression, the statistics involved
  • Appreciating how it is depleting the energy of half the world’s population
  • Misconceptions about extroverts and introverts
  • Pitfalls of groupwork and the pain of independence
  • Different survival strategies
  • Being a black crow among parrots, self-care tips
  • Relationship between introversion and creativity
  • Not anti-social but differently social, finding real connection

At the end of the program you will be able to:

  • Feel safer and lighter and less inadequate
  • Withstand negative peer messages
  • Use his talents in a more productive manner
  • Establish real connections with family and friends
  • Enjoy better emotional and mental health
  • Contribute more fully to the environment around them
Tackling Teen Bullying

Program Name:

Tackling Teen Bullying

For Who: 

Parents

Mode of Delivery: Online

Where: Zoom Meeting App

Program Length: 6 Weeks

Duration/Session: 1 Hour

Frequency of sessions: 3/Month

There is a rosy picture adults have about the school ground and its hallways. They imagine the students surrounded with a joy of learning, laughter with friends and the hope of a flourishing future. The truth is somewhere in between. There is a vicious competition, comparison and an almost conspiratorial air amongst the teens in particular. One way it is expressed most often is through the act of bullying.

Bullying is particularly harmful at a stage when the teenagers are trying to steady themselves psychologically and emotionally. They face the real challenge of building their individual-hood sitting under a water-fall of information. In this state of vulnerability, bullying can crush them mentally and spiritually, sometimes for life.

It is important to remember that a child has the potential to be bullied but also to be a bully himself/herself.

Right now, the adults are too busy to pay attention until a crisis hits them. But the volume and destructive nature and internet facilitation of bullying demands that the subject be addressed with a sense of urgency.

Six sessions of an hour each, over a period of 3 months

  1. Education on the phenomenon of bullying
  2. Response to bullying
  3. Technology and bullying
  4. Safe preventive strategies
  5. When your child is the bully
  6. Creating a safe environment
  • Understanding what is bullying, the types and signs of bullying
  • Effects of bullying and why children don’t report bullying
  • Handling teasing and bullying
  • The bystander effects and how to use it
  • Awareness and how to practice online hygiene
  • How to handle a cyber crisis?
  • Role play assertive scenarios and how they can help prepare
  • Laws against bullying
  • Guided conversations for acceptance and acknowledgment of the problem
  • When to ask for professional help?
  • New threats in the environment today and tomorrow
  • The pressing need for immediate action and advocacy

At the end of the program you will be able to:

  • Increase their awareness and understanding about bullying
  • Understand bullying behaviours in the form of sexual harassment, dating violence and homophobia.
  • Know how bullying affects everybody, and develop skills such as interpersonal skills, assertiveness, empathy and conflict resolution to handle it.
  • Get useful information on the issues of bullying and intimidation.
  • Develop respect for themselves and others.
Staying Relevant as Parents in times of Social Media

Program Name:

Staying Relevant as Parents in times of Social Media

For Who: 

Parents of Teenagers

Mode of Delivery: Online

Where: Zoom Meeting App

Program Length: 6 Weeks

Duration/Session: 1 Hour

Frequency of sessions: 2/Month

Parents of teens and tweens today often find themselves scared, confused and conflicted. Their teens seem like a mystery to them. The adults can’t tell how to be their teen’s friend and parent at the same time. They see some troubling signs but are hard put to pin the reasons behind the troubling choices their teen may be making.

Peer parenting gives them the kind of competition they feel powerless against. So, you have parents biting their tongues, walking on eggshells and improvising as they go along. There seems to be no one to turn to. They may reach a point when their communication with their teen breaks down completely. Their teen shuts his/her door in their faces and blocks them on all social media.

This can prove to be dangerous in the long run. It is close to losing a child. Gradually the distance begins to increase and the parents begin to become irrelevant to their child’s existence. In the hyperconnected world we live in today, it is not difficult for the teen to find a digital/unconstitutional family outside of the biological one.

Parents need to discover and define their agency against this potential scenario. How do they remain relevant to their teens today?

Six sessions of an hour each, over a period of 3 months
1) Understanding the emotional weight of being a teenager today
2) The sudden shift in decades old developmental patterns
3) How can you get an introduction to their ever-changing world?
4) Being a true pioneer and relevant parent
5) The vibe in your home
6) Competence and resilience, the goals of parenting

  • Learning to address openly and without agenda, the complications of their daily lives
  • Appreciation of the nature of social pressures, future fears and hopelessness
  • The change in the very nature of childhood and its potent impact on the totality of a child’s life
  • The pressure of social media in their DNA and how it is integral to teenage identity and self-worth
  • Asking the questions that scare you and listening to what you don’t want to hear
  • Creating that elusive collaboration with your teen when she needs you most
  • Being available to the teen when they feel their worst
  • Learning the alternate identity their teen crafts on their social media
  • Creating a home where the teen can put their minds to rest, hear themselves and breathe
  • Getting deeper into their world, as an ally, not a spy
  • It takes a village to raise a child; strong relationships with aunts and uncles
  • Light up for your child and not worry about controlling the narrative

At the end of the program you will be able to:

  • Shed the feeling of being an inconvenient, unacceptable stressor for the parent
  • Feel less anxious and stressed and more connected
  • Retain a sense of wonder and awe about life
  • Negotiate the teen years with greater confidence and clarity
  • Cope with the inevitable knocks to her/his self-esteem and sense of self-worth
  • Move towards their vision for their own future with a sense of well-being
PHONE ORIENTATION BY NEERJA SINGH

Program Name:

Smartphone Orientation for Teens

For Who: 

Parents of Teenagers

Mode of Delivery: Online

Where: Zoom Meeting App

Program Length: 6 Weeks

Duration/Session: 1 Hour

Frequency of sessions: 2/Month

The majority of teens have access to a smartphone today. The device bring to the teens messaging apps, games, social media and an internet connectivity. But when we hand over the smartphone to our teens, we give them access to spaces that we would never dream of exposing them to in the physical world. An orientation ritual needs to be put in place therefore for both the parents and their teen to educate themselves on the most responsible way of using the smartphone. A teen ought to be made aware of the risks of this powerful device and how to minimize them.

At an age when curiosity is at its peak and there is an intense desire for validation, the teen is certain to roam far and wide on the slippery digital highways. The internet validates. The internet assures. The Internet lets you curate your personal version of yourself and life. And your teens neither have the experience nor the guidelines from anyone invested in them to be able to tell the difference between the real and projected.

What can we do therefore? Ideally do not buy your teens a smartphone. But given the learning from home scenario and all the advantages of the device, sit down with them while unboxing the smartphone and make a serious presentation. About the guidelines and the expectations.

Six sessions of an hour each, over a period of 3 months

  1. The mobile ecosystem
  2. Smartphone hygiene
  3. Family cell phone rules
  4. Digital dieting
  5. The laws against sexting and adult content
  6. Parental controls
  • Learning the various parts of the mobile ecosystem
  • Understanding how safety, security and privacy of users is a shared responsibility
  • Appreciating the cost, usage limits, care of the phone
  • Committing to a respectful and safe use of the smartphone
  • Awareness of phone time/location/apps management, responding and checking in with a sense of consideration
  • Accepting the consequences of breaking family cell phone contract
  • Using down time to get exercise, sleep well and study
  • Selective responding to and blocking of undesirable numbers
  • Appreciation of the near permanent nature of one’s digital footprint
  • Developing healthy relationships and being open to discussing upsetting content
  • Paying attention to app permissions/find my phone app
  • Technology tools and resilience, moral compass and cognitive filter

At the end of the program your teenager will be able to:

  • Appreciate how the smartphone can be used to keep him/her and the family safe
  • Use the smartphone with a sense of responsibility and accountability
  • Respect the family boundaries and learn to accept the consequences of his/her actions
  • Protect himself/herself from the toxicity of smartphone addiction
  • Guard his/her reputation and future prospects
  • Benefit from the right guidance from parents